Many people experience passing doubts in worship. A person may wonder whether their wudu is still valid, whether they pronounced a letter correctly in al-Fatihah, whether they made a mistake in salah, or whether they chose the correct scholarly opinion. For most people, the doubt comes and goes. They continue and move on. For some…
In recent years, ADHD has become much more widely discussed. For some people, this has brought relief. They finally have language for struggles they have carried for years. For others, the term is used so casually online that it can feel as though every distraction, bad habit, or lack of discipline is now being called…
When religion becomes a tool for ego, control, and self-glorification Religion is meant to soften the heart. It should humble the soul and draw a person closer to Allah Almighty. True spirituality increases sincerity, mercy, self-awareness. It instills khawf (a deep awareness of standing before Allah). The more a person truly knows Allah, the more…
The word “narcissist” is now used so casually that it has almost lost meaning. It is easy to label someone who is rude, selfish, arrogant or bossy a narcissist. But that is not right. Islam repeatedly stresses the importance of fairness and precision. So, Muslims should not casually diagnose people or reduce every difficult relationship to…
Islam, certainty, and finding peace in faith Some Muslims today describe a feeling of anxiety around religious practice. This can show itself as constant self-doubt, repeated checking of rulings, fear that worship is invalid, or a feeling of being mentally trapped by religion. Religious practice seems heavy and exhausting. Yet this experience is not…
If your mother or father is unjust, their injustice does not nullify their rights over you. The rights of parents (both the mother or father) over their child are immense. Allah has commanded the child to treat his parents kindly, even if they are polytheists and urge him to associate partners with Allah. Allah says:…
Mental health The growing conversation around trauma, healing, therapy, and where it sits within Islamic practice deserves a nuanced and careful discussion. Across Muslim spaces today, there’s a noticeable rise in both the uptake of secular therapy and a reactionary rejection of it, often due to perceptions that it is unscientific, overly focused on victimhood,…
What can we do when we are stressed? Four coping mechanisms to dealing with pressure.
In this current climate, grief seems to be a swamp which we are collectively sinking into. There is so much sadness around us. Many of us have lost close relatives, loved ones, parents, children and colleagues. The pain is raw and deep. There are of course, different degrees of sadness: severe, unshakeable sadness, which needs…
Suicide is prohibited in the Quran. ۞ وَلَا تَقۡتُلُواْ ٱلنَّفۡسَ ٱلَّتِي حَرَّمَ ٱللَّهُ إِلَّا بِٱلۡحَقِّۚ ذَٰلِكُمۡ وَصَّىٰكُم بِهِۦ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تَعۡقِلُونَ And do not kill the self that Allah has prohibited, except with the truth (i.e., by right, in the course of justice). [6:151] Allah Almighty sanctified our soul, so we are forbidden to kill it. The only time He sanctioned killing it is in the pursuit of justice….
By the soul and the One who perfected it And inspired it [with instincts] of good and evil Successful is the one who purifies it, And failure is his who corrupts it. (91:7-10) There is a hadith which Usamah ibn Sharik narrated: I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and his Companions were sitting as…
Marriage is not a life sentence. Breaking taboos Islam is not an alien religion which puts women under threat or expects them to tolerate abuse or harm. Any abuse is haram. I am not in any way promoting or encouraging divorce, or the break up of families and upheaval of children, but if a marriage…