Rule 7: Do not pass on gossip Ghazali says do not listen to rumours about others and do not pass them on. We need this very sound nugget of advice because we are flooded by rumours, fabrications, lies and fake news. The Quran and Sunnah gave us the formula for dealing with them. What should…
‘Uqbah ibn ‘Amr reported: I met the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said to me: “O ‘Uqbah, reconcile with whoever cuts you off, give to whoever deprives you, and forgive whoever wrongs you.” (Musnad Ahmad) This hadith does not mean you put up with abuse but that you return…
You get what you give عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رضي الله تعالى عنها قَالَتْ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «اللَّهُمَّ مَنْ وَلِيَ مِنْ أَمْرِ أُمَّتِي شَيْئًا فَشَقَّ عَلَيْهِمْ فَاشْقُقْ عَلَيْهِ وَمَنْ وَلِيَ مِنْ أَمْرِ أُمَّتِي شَيْئًا فَرَفَقَ بهم فارفُقْ بِهِ» . رَوَاهُ مُسلم Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated that the Messenger of…
Allah Almighty says; We never sent any messenger except in the language of his people, to make things clear for them. God leads astray whom He wills, and guides whom He wills. He is the Mighty, the Wise. Ibrahim:4 Clarity of the message and communication What has been sent has to be clear in order…
How to deal with sinners Whether it is your family or friends or a public figure, every now and then, they make mistakes. Unfortunately as a community, we have many shortcomings, and one of these is that we don’t know how to handle people’s misdemeanours and mistakes, or ill judged statements, from an Islamic point…
Being good to your neighbour. Even if he is bad to you. Being good to someone who is good to you is easy. Being good to someone who is not good to you, is hard. This is why being good to your neighbour is a sign of imaan. Allah Almighty says in Surah Fussilat: The…
How to avoid backbiting What you choose to say is either for you or against you. It can be honey or poison. Bitter or sweet. Words can deliver good news and the truth. But they can also deliver bad news and lies. Umm Habibah, (may Allah be pleased with her) the wife of the Prophet…
The Art of Silence The Prophet (peace be on him) said: Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let him say something good or let him be silent. (Bukhari) What we say is an important topic. it can’t be underestimated. And we see this from the character of the Prophet (peace be on him),…
Catch it. Bin it. Kill it. Allah does not like the public mention of evil except by one who has been wronged. And ever is Allah Hearing and Knowing. (4:148) This ayah is one of the main Quranic ayahs on social discipline and how to deal with gossip and rumours. There are five main principles…
Why husbands and wives need to keep their private lives private It is quite common in our community, among our neighbours, friends, and colleagues to get together and discuss others in gossip sessions. This behaviour is so disgusting and forbidden, that in the Quran, Allah Almighty says: O you who believe! Avoid most suspicion—some…
7 Tips for a Successful Marriage Unlike other relationships which we are born into, we make a choice and a commitment in marriage and need to work at it to create love, peace and security. How can a couple improve this within their marriage? Here are 7 tips to improve this sacred relationship. 1. Understanding…
Delivered 2013.
Discussing the harms of backbiting, and the seriousness of the sin.
The Virus The Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) said, “Shall I tell you about the best of you?” They said, “Of course, O Messenger of Allah.” The Prophet (peace be on him) said, “The best of you are those who, when they are seen, inspire others to remember Allah Almighty.” The Prophet Muhammad (peace…
Fake News The REAL danger of compromising your akhirah by indiscriminately hitting the forward button… Allah the Almighty says in the Qur’an, ‘Oh People of the Book! Why do you mix truth with falsehood and conceal the truth while you know?’ (3:71) And in another verse, Allah says, ‘And there are a group of people from the People of…