What is the best of three options when there is backbiting?
Abu Ad-Darda (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: ‘Whoever defends his brother’s honour in his absence, Allah will protect his face from the hellfire on...
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Ghazali on Backbiting – why people do it, when you can do it, how to stop doing it
Imam Ghazali’s book Kitaab Al-Arba’in Fi Usul ad-Din, The 40 Principles of the Faith is a summary of his great work, Ihya Ulumuddin which he wrote before he died. In the chapter on the...
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Ghazali’s 20 rules for dealing with people. Rules 16-18 Defend others in their absence, be tactful and be cautious of the company of the rich
Rules 16-20 for dealing with people Rule 16: Supporting your brother or sister in their absence In Imam al Ghazali’s Kitaab Al-Arba’in Fi Usul ad-Din, the 40 Principles in Religion, he sketches the the...
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Honey or poison. How words are either for you or against you
How to avoid backbiting What you choose to say is either for you or against you. It can be honey or poison. Bitter or sweet. Words can deliver good news and the truth. But...
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Biting your tongue. Easier said than done
The Art of Silence The Prophet (peace be on him) said: Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let him say something good or let him be silent. (Bukhari) What we say is...
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The low down on gossiping, gatherings and secrets between spouses
Why husbands and wives need to keep their private lives private It is quite common in our community, among our neighbours, friends, and colleagues to get together and discuss others in gossip sessions....
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