Children in the mosque

Children in the mosque

Often elders who come in late to the mosque asks children and teens who are in the rows ahead to move to the back to make space for them. The children are often disappointed. Can you please comment?

It’s a common practice by the way and lets get to the bottom of this. In the hadith, the Prophet (peace be upon him), mentioned regarding children that they should be in the back row etc. they way he organised the rows for prayer, men, children, women and this is the way it should be but bearing in mind he educated them so that they are aware of this so when they go to the mosque they know the rules and regulations and they are familiar with this and the family, children, parents all knows this; so there’s no embarrassment because they know where they should be.

However in the context which we have now; there is widespread lack of awareness and we rarely bring our children to the mosque and they know very little. So we want them to love the mosque rather than have negative associations with it.

Reprimanding them and treating them harshly, with the stick mentality will not give them a good experience or happy memories of the mosque. It will make them hate going to the mosque because they keep being told off. They will feel they are treated as babies, when they feel they are grown up and they shouldn’t be treated in that way.

Therefore we should respect them and allow them to go to the mosque and even stand in the same row as us. We should also teach them how to behave and stick to the etiquettes of the mosque.

Teach children the etiquettes of the mosque

You might have a very young children coming to the mosque, playing and even running around and they will be put off if they are shouted at. You should, of course teach and train your children not to cause disturbance for those around them, but teach them gently, so they do not get bad experience.

Accommodate young children in the mosque

I have seen Turkish mosques, where they have a a crèche for the children at the back with toys where they can play. Whilst the salah is taking place they are playing in the back and laughing without causing too much noise and disturbance but they love the mosque. We should also create this space for children in the mosque suitable for our times, space, community etc.

Shaykh Haytham Tamim – Sunday Hadith Class

Transcribed by Rose Roslan

From the collection of hadith in Ibn Hajar al Asaqalani’s Bulugh al Maram. Taken from the last chapter in his book, which is Kitab al Jami (The Comprehensive Book), which is a collection of etiquettes.

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Shaykh Haytham Tamim is the founder and main teacher of the Utrujj Foundation. He has provided a leading vision for Islamic learning in the UK, which has influenced the way Islamic knowledge is disseminated. He has orchestrated the design and delivery of over 200 unique courses since Utrujj started in 2001. His extensive expertise spans over 30 years across the main Islamic jurisprudence schools of thought. He has studied with some of the foremost scholars in their expertise; he holds some of the highest Ijazahs (certificates) in Quran, Hadith (the Prophetic traditions) and Fiqh (Islamic rulings). His own gift for teaching was evident when he gave his first sermon to a large audience at the age of 17 and went on to serve as a senior lecturer of Islamic transactions and comparative jurisprudence at the Islamic University of Beirut (Shariah College). He has continued to teach; travelling around the UK, Europe and wider afield, and won the 2015 BISCA award (British Imams & Scholars Contributions & Achievements Awards) for Outstanding Contribution to Education and Teaching.

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