Question: Generally one expects that one will grow up and have a certain life, one will get married and will have children. When those things don’t happen then you’re left with a sense of unfairness that ‘I don’t have something that other people have’. You can try to say to yourself that you are happy for them and you can make dua for them but it still leaves you feeling sad. How do you know that you do not envy them but that that you are feeling sad at the fact that you did not get what others did? Is it OK to feel sad because you didn’t get those things you assumed you would get but you didn’t? Answer: It’s tough when you expected life to go one way, and it did not, but you need to face your reality and reprogram your mind to be content with what Allah Almighty destined for you. Allah Almighty distributes favours, gifts and blessings to whom He wills. It’s not us who decide who takes what. He destined for some people to be married, and others to be single, some to have children, and others not, some people live longer, and other’s lives are much shorter. This is all from Allah Almighty’s wisdom. We cannot interfere with Allah Almighty’s wisdom. We compare ourselves to others and that is the essence of our problems – comparing. You compare yourself with your sister or with your brother or with your friend, when in fact you are a unique person. It may be that the purpose of your existence was not to have children. So you have to find something else to devote your time and energy on. I know it’s good to have children but it’s not a necessity in life. It is not … Continue reading Is life unfair when it doesn’t go to plan? Are you envious of others?